Everything changes

The other day I had a very important conversation with my 4-year-old daughter about change. While I was teaching her how everything changes I was teaching myself. All of a sudden I accepted the fact that change is part of nature. Though it is convenient and easier to stay at the same place, it is simply not natural! Nature changes and so do we...Change can be good or bad but it ultimately becomes part of life, your life as you learn and grow and develop. Life is all about stages. Nothing remains constant nor the same; it flaws like a river, like the roaming of the wind.

When others are forcing change on you whether with good or bad intent they should expect some resistance. Change comes naturally from within. Working in the fitness industry I see how many girls come to change their bodies not because they feel the need to do so but because they were told how imperfect they look and how they should work on fixing the problem. It breaks my heart to see beautiful women who after going through one or several pregnancies loose the body they had and all of a sudden they loose their significant other's affection. They are still the same person on the inside but because visually it isn't pleasing to their partner their world crashes down. Some skinny girls come to me asking to be more curvy because their boyfriend wants them curvy. The overweight girls come to me crying because they are single and can't find a boyfriend because of their looks.

When did men and women for that matter became so critical? Certainly not because they look perfect themselves but because media continues to impose images of the Kardashians, JLos and so on causing the fantasy to take over the reality. Free porn sites over saturate the Internet causing men to believe that women should look and act that way in reality. It's all a fantasy and a very dangerous one that can destroy beautiful real relationships.

What  happened to you are beautiful the way you are slogan? Why can't you look beyond the skin and really see the soul of the person you are with?! The body changes ladies and gentlemen, the soul grows. I am not saying if you are obese and unhealthy it's OK. I am saying you should want to change for you and not because your boyfriend or girlfriend told you so. They have the problem; not you!

Remember that everything changes and change comes from within. Embrace the natural process of aging and don't let it become a barrier to your true happiness because someone else sees it as a problem through a crooked lens imposed by media and the porn industry.